New Beginnings, New Adventures, New Possibilities

I’m back! Finally! I’m so sorry that I have been completely M.I.A. and super inconsistent with my blogs. I promise I’ll try and do better this year. Hence the title of this post. First off, I would like to point out that I meant to write this blog post at the beginning of the month, but better late than never I guess.

I started Pocket Passionista a couple of years ago, mainly because I wanted to share my love for pockets in women’s clothing, because, let’s face it, it’s a rare commodity. Looking back at my posts, I feel like I went on a venting session expressing my frustrations. However, I think I was also venting because I was a full-time working mom, with a job that was preventing me from growing professionally. Thankfully, it was just a contract and that contract ended last September. I ended up taking the remaining 2018 to spend more time with my family, something I felt like I was missing out on when I was working full time. I may have taken an extra month considering I’m writing this post at the end of January. But I’m here now and that’s all that matters.

Now that you’ve got a brief history of where I’ve been and what I’ve been doing, or not doing, let me tell you what’s in store for 2019.

New Beginnings

This stay-at-home-mom life is very new to me. I’ve pretty much always worked for as long as I can remember. Now that I have been on both sides of the spectrum, of working full-time and balancing family life, to staying home and balancing a social life (or lack thereof), I have much, much respect for all stay-at-home-moms and the working moms. I’m not sure how I did it when I was working, and I’m not sure how moms can stay at home. I have one child, he goes to daycare, and still, it’s hard work! So, if you have more than one kid, I bow down to you! On the other hand, the thought of going back to work sounds so absurd right now. I’m actually looking forward to seeing how I do with this staying at home thing. In the meantime, wish me luck!

New Adventures

I guess having a project to work on is something I’ll always look for. This blog and expanding Pocket Passionista is something I’m going to focus more on this year. I’ll admit, I’m not a big fan of “modeling” or being in pictures. In fact, I absolutely hate selfies. But, I’m working on stepping out of my comfort zone and looking for opportunities to grow as a human being, to be a better mom, wife, and friend. I truly believe putting myself out there will help me accomplish this and I’m excited to be sharing this journey with you along the way.

I also bought a sewing machine, that’s still in its box…BUT, my goal for this year is to learn how to sew. I think I’ll start easy, maybe I’ll learn to sew lounge pants, with pockets of course. I will definitely keep you updated on how that goes.

Going along with my domesticated projects, I am learning to crochet. This is something I have been wanting to do for myself for quite sometime. I have also found it to be a form of stress relief. My grandmother was amazing at crocheting, and she actually taught me the basic technique before she passed about 4 years ago. However, I was just never bothered to pick up the hook and yarn until now, but I’m glad I’m getting into it. It has been bringing back some amazing memories I shared with my grandmother and it makes be feel all warm and cozy inside.

New Possibilities

Now that I’m not working and tied down to a 9-5, or in my case it was 7am-4pm, I feel like the possibilities are endless. I have more freedom to take on the world the way that I want to. I don’t have to answer to a boss. Well, except for my child, but that’s neither here nor there. I’m taking this time to feel the waters and see what works well with me and what doesn’t. Even though I’m a mom in my mid-thirties, I don’t care. I have this opportunity and I’m going for it!

I’m really excited to see what this year has in store for me. And I’m even more excited to share my journey with you all along the way! In the meantime, I would love to hear from you all. Tell me about your beginnings, adventures, and possibilities that you’re looking forward to in the new year!

10 Reasons why carrying handbags suck

Spring is here! What does that mean? It’s time for florals, lace, and sandals, pastel colors, light cardigans, and flowy dresses. Spring means more sunshine and less clothes. That’s right. It was fun staying warm in cozy jackets, fluffy scarves, and bulky sweaters, but now that spring is here, we’re ready to soak in some Vitamin D and put those warm clothes away until next fall. One other accessory I would like to put away for the spring is my huge handbag. Sure, it carried a lot for me over the cold, winter months, but looking back, I barely needed 95% of the things I lugged around with me all winter. If you’re like me and aren’t a huge fan of carrying around a handbag regularly, keep reading. I have a list of 10 reasons why carrying a handbag sucks. When I’m done, if I missed anything, feel free to respond in the comments below. I would love to hear your reasons why handbags suck and pockets are life!

  1. Only one free hand.

    Carrying a handbag means that of the two arms you have, only one is completely functional. If you’re like me and have somewhat of a larger handbag, then typically you have to carry the handbag on your forearm. Even if you tried to put it on your shoulder, it tends to just slip off and end up right back on your forearm. The solution you might say is, “wear a crossbody.” But a crossbody handbag isn’t exactly the most flattering. I mean, the strap pressing right in between your boobs, not cute. Let’s face it, carrying a handbag forces you to lose 50% of your arms’ full functionality.

  2. Shoulder pain.

    You’re carrying that handbag on your forearm or shoulder. Do you ever find yourself switching arms when holding your bag? I do it ALL THE TIME. That’s because carrying a handbag causes so much shoulder pain. But as women, we have taught ourselves to just tolerate the pain and brush it off. There’s no way that regular use and carrying of handbags is good for our shoulders.

  3. Handbags collect junk.

    The bigger the handbag, the more junk it tends to collect. I mean, it’s the easiest and quickest place to put something that you don’t want to toss. Or, it is something that needs to be tossed, but there isn’t a trash can near you at the moment, so in the handbag is goes, straight to the bottom, only to be forgotten about because we’re busy doing other more important things. Because I end up collecting so much junk, my handbag gets heavier and heavier making my shoulder pain worse. Just can’t win.

  4. Carrying other people’s crap.

    Don’t you just love it when your friends or significant other sees that you have a large handbag and then proceeds to ask you to carry their crap. This happens to me EVERY TIME! When we’re out, my husband is always putting his keys, wallet, and phone in my handbag. I already don’t want to carry my own crap, and now I have to carry his?!! Ugh!

  5. Can’t find anything.

    With collecting all that junk and carrying other people’s crap, when I need to find something like my own wallet, keys, or phone…good luck! I can never find anything! My lip balm is never in the pocket I originally put it, my phone never stays in the same place, and my keys are always tucked in a corner all the way to bottom of my handbag. I’m always spending several minutes trying to find what I’m looking for and I’m always getting frustrated when I absolutely can’t find it.

  6. Germs. 

    I’m not sure I need to say anything else. Whenever I’m out, especially at restaurants, I am always trying to find the back of my chair or another chair to place my handbag on. I refuse to leave my handbag on the ground. The germs and nasty ground is no place for your handbag. But then I go home and where does that handbag go? On the ground. I have caught myself on many occasions putting my handbag on my bed so that I could find something only to realize that I’m just transferring all those germs from the bottom of my handbag to my bed or my other clean counters in the house. And what does that mean? More cleaning for me! Yay! Not.

  7. Easy to lose or forget.

    How many times have you been out and started to leave a place only to realize that you left your handbag behind? I have done it so many times now that I probably have an underlying anxiety issue so I don’t leave it behind. Because our handbags aren’t attached to us, it is so easy for us to forget it somewhere or lose it. And with money, credit cards, license, and other personal information, it’s not really safe for us to be doing that.

  8. An extra thing to carry.

    Nowadays women are working just as much as men, if not more. Which means we carry other things with us like laptops and lunch bags. Carrying a handbag is just another bulky item that we carry that isn’t a necessity such as food that keeps us alive and well, and a computer that pays for the food to keep us alive and well, and that expensive handbag that seems to be more of a burden than a cute accessory. A simple solution would be to carry your wallet, keys, and phone in your laptop bag or something, but what happens when you need to run errands and don’t need to carry your laptop bag around? You still need that handbag!

  9. Difficult to accessorize.

    I started Pocket Passionista because I love clothes with pockets, but that doesn’t mean I have the best fashion sense. In fact, I’m not great at accessorizing. I’m a minimalist. Hence, the love for pockets. I tend to wear the same pieces of jewelry on a daily basis. When it comes to handbags, I’m not that person that likes to change my handbag to compliment my outfit. I wear the same handbag for days or months until I get bored and decide it’s time for a change. And most of the time, I wear a plain and simple black handbag. Not to mention, the idea of transferring all my items from one handbag to another seems so daunting. Actually, I have attempted this a few times and failed each time, miserably, because I always forget something in the other handbag that I end up needing, but don’t have in the new handbag.

  10. Expensive. 

    Cute handbags are expensive. Need I say more? All my handbags cost way more than the amount of money I actually carry around with me. I don’t know why I do this to myself. I spend money on handbags to carry things around, most of which I don’t need, only to get annoyed and frustrated that I have to carry it around in the first place. Expensive handbags are more of a fashion statement and are a way to maintain your status quo. But in my opinion, it’s not worth it. Especially not after mentioning the other 9 reasons why carrying a handbag around sucks.

What’s the moral of this post you ask? This is just more concrete evidence that having pockets in women’s clothing is a far better alternative to handbags. Pockets help us free our hands, reduce shoulder pain, clean our lives from clutter and junk, and help keep important items close to us. Pockets also help keep us from picking up unwanted germs, we’re less likely to lose or forget important items, and we tend not to carry unnecessary junk. Best of all, pockets allow us to find other, more flattering accessories compared to the handbag, not to mention we could potentially save money from buying those expensive handbags. All-in-all, pockets for the win! Please share your thoughts in the comments below on why you think handbags suck.

Faux Pockets…Why?!!

Vent sesh alert! The other day I was wearing these cute skinny pants at work. They were black with a textured pattern on them with zippered pockets. So, naturally, I got excited and thought, “Pockets! Yay!” Until I unzipped the zipper only to find that it was purely there just as an accessory. Why?!! I mean, what harm is there in creating a real thin pocket so I can slide in some cash or even a credit card? Not to mention, I actually needed to discretely transport some feminine hygiene products with me to the restroom, but those pockets were useless to me. I ended up having to be creative and find other ways of carrying it with me so that I would not have to haul my huge handbag to the restroom. 

Speaking of being creative. I feel like women always have to be creative when it comes to carrying things. Guys never have to worry about what purse or handbag to carry with them depending on where they’re going or what they’re wearing. For instance, I have a special bag that I take to work with me everyday, but on the weekends, I don’t like carrying a work bag, so either I just take my wallet with me or try and fit everything in a wristlet. I can’t tell you how many times I have actually gone to work forgetting to put my wallet back in my work bag. Not to mention my purse, wristlet, or wallet has to match the event I’m attending and the outfit I’m wearing.  To me, it’s so frustrating and annoying, and quite frankly something I just don’t have time for anymore. What’s even more sad is that this inconvenience has basically become second nature to us. Funny enough, I actually came across this article that many women can completely relate to.  Check it out here: The Gender Politics of Pockets

Now, back to my obsession with pockets. What’s the point of putting cute zippers on a pair of cute pants only to open up the zipper to find nothing, absolutely nothing?!! I get it, and I’ve said it before that women’s clothing is highly dependent on our silhouette and form fitting clothes that hug our curves and make us look cute and feminine, but still, faux pockets? No, thank you! And why do men get extra pockets? Their clothes are now more fitted. I see my husband wear his semi-skinny jeans, but he gets pockets to fit his phone, wallet, and other things. He even gets a secret, hidden mini-pocket in his trousers. What’s up with that? This is preposterous. Okay, it might not be that serious, but I just had to vent out my frustrations about faux pockets. Thanks for listening and reading! Please comment below to vent your frustrations on lack of pockets in women’s clothing.

Where to Find Clothes with Pockets!

So, I’ve been a little out of touch lately, but it’s only because I’m working on something exciting for everyone! So stay tuned…

In the meantime, there are many of you that have been asking me where I get my outfits from. Not all of my dresses and skirts have pockets, but I have noticed that I get more compliments on my outfits that happen to have pockets in them. Hmmm, coincidence? Maybe, maybe not. Many of my dresses and skirts are from different places and some outfits are so old that I don’t think you can find anything similar anymore. But, don’t worry! I have a few places that I love to shop with cute dresses and skirts that have pockets.

As you have seen on my Instagram and my blog post, I have this really cute green midi skirt. I go this skirt from Modcloth. They have a bunch of different colors and what I love about this skirt is that it goes with different tops. I even wore it in the winter with boots and it looked really cute. What I also love about this skirt is, obviously, the pockets. Not simply because the skirt has pockets, but it’s the way they are sort of “hidden” and not really noticeable to others, which is my favorite thing about any outfit.

On my Instagram and my other blog post, I’m wearing a red midi dress with pockets.  This dress is also from Modcloth, but unfortunately no longer available.  Not to worry though, because Modcloth has tons of cute dresses and skirts with pockets. So, if you’re wondering where to find these outfits with pockets, I encourage you to check out their site.

Modcloth isn’t the only place to find these outfits though. I actually came across this other site, eShakti, and most of their dresses have pockets. What’s even better is that this site will customize your outfit for you. I have not tried anything from this site yet, but I plan to very soon. Stay tuned for my review on their clothes. But in the meantime, feel free to try them out yourself and let me know what you think about their clothes. I love that they have a wide selection of maxi dresses. Don’t get me started on my obsession with maxi dress…and with pockets!

If Modcloth or eShakti isn’t your style, I also came across Johnston & Murphy dresses that have pockets as well. Again, I haven’t tried any of their dresses yet, but whenever I do, I’ll be sure to let you guys know what I think!

The Dress that Started it All

Years ago (I can’t even tell you the exact year), I went to the outlet mall and walked into the BCBG store. I actually never intended to buy anything because everything was way out of my budget (I was a college student at the time), but I just wanted to try on dresses for fun. Because what girl doesn’t want to feel glamorous, even if it is just for 10 minutes? I picked out a bunch of dresses to try on, including this really cute green dress. The fit was so flattering to my body type, the length hit perfectly right above my knees, and the sleeves were puffy, yet really cute. As I am staring at myself in the mirror inside the dressing room, I was falling in love with the dress, until I turned to my side and noticed something just below the waist area.

Could it be? No way! This dress has pockets! OMG! Instant love!

I took the dress to the checkout counter and found out it was on sale…it was destiny! Although it was still pricey…for a college student, I decided to go ahead splurge (and I’m glad I did). It has been maybe 8 or 9 years since I bought this dress, but I still wear it and get compliments all the time. In fact, I wore it a few months ago at a company dinner and my colleagues were complimenting me left and right. It’s one of those dresses that always makes me feel confident and beautiful when I wear it. But, the fact that it has pockets is the best part of it all!

Lately I’ve been running into friends that are following me through my blog and social media. I’ve been asked the same two questions: “How’s your blog doing?” and “So, what exactly is the purpose of your blog?” So, here’s the quick and dirty version of the story…

I was at work one day wearing a cute skirt with pockets. My colleagues were complimenting my outfit and my response was, “thanks, it has pockets!” And then a few minutes later, I turned around and dorkily said, “guys, pockets are my passion.” And that was that. We talked about how I should start a blog. The initial intention was to write a blog about something I was passionate about and then figuring out how to grow from there.

Right now, I just want to bring more attention to the fact that many of us love pockets in our clothes . Surprisingly, I’ve learned that many of my guy friends would prefer if we had pockets in our dresses as well because they’re sick of holding our stuff. I think my husband is my number one supporter in this cause. Haha! Eventually, I hope to create my own clothing line that allows us to have pockets in everything, from pajamas to workout clothes…now that would be something! But in the meantime, you’ll just be getting information about clothes with pockets. Stay tuned and I’ll start posting links on where to find some of these cute dresses and skirts.